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How to Spot a Gold digger!

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Gold Diggers are both male and female,despite the stereotypical view that they are usually female. Women are just as likely to find a male latch onto them for their money as a man is.

Gold digging is also not restricted to heterosexual relationships. Some people love money and the trappings of success but have a lazy streak, so they would rather find a free ride than pay for their own.

The good news is that Gold diggers are not hard to spot but the bad news is that easy targets for Gold Diggers are even easier to spot!

If you have a lot of money and you are one of these people that loves and enjoys money, glittery objects and big flashy cars etc. then you are a Gold Diggers wet dream because straight away you have something in common! Your other characteristics might include generosity and a mind set that ‘you get what you pay for’.

You might be a big tipper, buy more rounds than the rest of your pals, generally throwing the money around. You do this because you are generous but also because of the attention it brings and you do like attention don’t you! So a nice ‘expensive’ bit of arm candy might not be such a bad trade off right?

Often wealthy men and women have no objection to funding their gold digging partner in exchange for their company if that person is very attractive and makes them look good. Much like the new car makes them look good.

But what happens when the money runs dry or you can no longer keep up with a gold diggers expensive tastes and needs? Do you think they will stick around? Not likely. They will bleed you dry, accuse you of ruining their life by depriving them of their luxury lifestyle and then they will be off to find their next source of gold!

So if you fit the description above, think twice before happily acquiring an attractive partner on the understanding that you fund their entire lifestyle. The pleasant company will only last as long as the gifts and money keep coming, then the laugh will turn to a scowl.

Now we know what a Gold Diggers ideal mate is, how do those of you who have wealth and success spot a gold digger should you decide to avoid them!

It is important not to confuse a man or woman with little of their own money as a gold digger purely on the basis that they cannot afford to pay for the great dates and places that you want to go.

You will often know if your date cannot afford that lifestyle and if that’s the case and you still want to enjoy the high life with them, don’t see them as a gold digger if you need to pay. Needing to pay and being able to afford to do so is not the same as being forced to pay and then some regardless of what your date earns!

Also, someone who can’t afford to pay and is not a gold digger may suggest activities which are free and won’t suggest you go somewhere very expensive knowing full well you’ll be footing 100% of the bill.

So how do you spot a Gold Digger?

Wherever the money is, God, diggers will be in great abundance. They are not foolish and know how to find what they seek, and that won’t be in any cheap bar or club! When they visit these establishments they will be ’shopping’ and will be weighing up everyone in the place to see who might offer them the best ‘deal’ in terms of what ‘can you do for me’.

They will start as they mean to go on, by insisting you buy the drinks and suggesting places you can go and things you can buy. They will drive your credit card for you, let alone the new car they might persuade you to buy them.

If your Gold digger isn’t blatantly asking you for gifts, then they will be very huffy and quiet if not in receipt of them but their reasons will soon become clear. You might be accused of being a cheapskate, not treating them right, not appreciating them properly!

A line I heard a gold digger tell a pal of mine was ‘It costs money to look this good, and if he wants to date me, why shouldn’t he pay’. That woman was a gold digger and she got what she wanted..mainly. But when her man got into debt due to trying to fund her excessive needs, things didn’t look quiet so pretty when she was unable to cope on the reduction in living standards.

A Gold digger won’t stand by you when you hit hard times. That pretty little designer face will turn into a twisted nagging grimace and it won’t be pleasant!

If money was the lure, then when you have none or less they will be off looking for the next best thing. If you have fallen for your gold digger, that knowledge may be what spurs you on to ensure that you never do fall short of expectations, but what a hollow empty existence that is!

Do yourself a favor, find someone who loves you for you.

Written by Leah

12/04/2009 at 7:24 pm

Posted in Dating, relationships

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  1. Great article…great advice. It’s not fair when a kind, good hearted, hard working person with a good pay cheque gets nabbed by a gold digger, usally their heart gets broken and their confidence goes down the tubes again. This is why these people spend their money on other people willing to suck it out of them. It is because they want people to like them, they think that they have to buy them things, lend their cars, pay for this or that for someone to like them.
    I know people like this and I was one of these people myself. A very very kind person I know, single, good paying job, handsome, the works. He was a people pleaser, he thought he had to give give give in order to have friends, and he didn’t have to do that. He was a kind, gentle person. His father was tremendously hard on him and I think this is why he was the way he was. He commited suicide…guess the pain of rejection and low self confidence and failure to his father got to him. My friend, I knew since he was born…
    I know he felt like this because I could see familiars in him as I have in me. I just hardened up after awhile….

    Very good advice Leah for people. For those of you who think you have to be the payer all the time, you don’t. I learned if people don’t like me with or without money I don’t need them, I have my friends and they are true friends back to me in good times and bad.
    Don’t get hurt anymore, stand up for yourself, and it will make you feel good about yourself, and if your scared your going to hurt someone else’s feelings cause your not paying, don’t be scared, especially if it’s a continous situation. I can see paying up to maybe 3 times TOPS no more than that, they should pay for something even if it’s a night out for an ice cream, or invite you over for supper and do something nice for you.
    I am on a roll here and I had better quit, but this subject gets me right in my heart…been there , done that…not the gold digger part either. I dont’ know how anyone can possibly do that to another person, I can’t comprehend it, and I am glad I can’t, because then I would be as low as they are.
    Thanks for writing this Leah….you are sooooo smart and I love your articles.

    Kathy S W

    14/04/2009 at 12:15 am

  2. Whatever you have written on this article is 100% true. gold diggers can be recognized when we hit hard times because the would vanish at the slightest sign of trouble.

    anamika

    13/08/2009 at 3:26 am

  3. I believe I have run into a GD just recently. I met her online and we had 5 dinner dates in a week. She never paid one cent, or offered to split it, or pay the tip. We had a limited sexual encounter in which I responded to her, she did not respond to me. A couple days later I invited her to a party which was going to be held at a very nice expensive hotel…she googled the event then suggested we stay at the hotel after the event. No offer to split the cost. To do this would drive the cost of the date from $80 to $280.
    She was unemployed for a year, and running out of money (so she said) in about 3 months, I also heard 6 months another time. No way she could afford it.

    Anyway I bolted and no contacted her. Then a week later confronted her with it and she concluded with ” I don’t know how I feel about you right now.” I need to focus right now on finding my job.” I never heard from her again.

    Sound like a gold digger to anyone? Thank you. Greg

    Greg

    13/11/2009 at 2:05 am


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